The man I married was an all day on Sunday Christian. A church musician, but I wonder would my outcome been different if he hadn’t known Christ?
This is a question I’d have to ask myself while down on my knees praying to God. It was rhetorical, but I kinda needed an answer. I’d prayed that God would get me through the tough parts of marriage. The part that no one tells you about, the part that isn’t pretty lace and bows. The something old, is the childish games that get played by you and your spouse, where no one wins. The something new, is you, in the mirror trying to figure out who you’ve become. While wondering will your favorite eyeshadow cover that bruised eye. The something borrowed sometimes is your faith; that we are going to make it. It isn’t about the baby’s first steps. It is the waiting for your husband to come home knowing he’s been gone too long and up to no good. Its the puffy eyes and tear stained t-shirts because you ran out of tissues.
“He replied, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I
tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to
this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing
will be impossible for you.””
Matthew 17:20 NIV
image credit Terez Baskin
The disciples asked Jesus why they couldn’t cast out the demons from a
boy possessed. His reply was simply your faith is whack. If you
simply believed with the mustard seed size faith you go easily move
mountains, but because you think you can’t do it you just won’t. Your
unbelief will be your reality.
I will admit, I had a very unrequited love relationship with Jesus for most of my childhood. He loved me, I wasn’t quite sure if my feelings were the same. I didn’t know him that well.
Let me put this into context. Growing up I’d moved from attending the Kingdom Hall as a Jehovah’s Witness to attending Catholic high school while going to a Missionary Baptist Church. My Dad had grown up Catholic and my step-mother and sisters are Lutheran. I think I’d covered all my religious bases. God was always around, but I hadn’t had a relationship until a few years ago. I realized that God was universal, but Church wasn’t. There are rituals and hymns that are pretty adjacent. Many of these traditions I didn’t understand, but at the heart of it all God is love.
As Black Christians, we seem to be stuck in how, why, when, where, and what we wear while we praise God that we forget that none of that barely matters to God. He wants our praise and our works.
Courage can be defined as having the strength to do things that other people would not do.
Encouragement is the support from external sources and other people from your community to do the things they believe we have the strength to do.
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In-Couragement is the voice of God within all of us to do accomplish the tasks that God has placed inside of us to do. It is the manifestation of his gifts, talents and skills that will help us do these things. In-Couragement helps you fulfill his purpose for your life. Your inner strength to persevere. It will help you push past the obstacles, challenges, and defeat. Yes, even though you have God as the wind beneath your wings there will be set backs, and road blocks. These should be seen as test of your faith. A test of your faith and your commitment to your personal legend.
Your In-Couragement will take you to places where only faith can take you. A place that no mere mortal can go without God; without God’s grace & mercy.
In the last couple of years, I have personally pushed past limitations and obstacles to continue to follow my personal legend. I have been haunted by the things I didn’t accomplish. I decided that I would not live like that forever. I make a clear decision about who I wanted to be. More like needed to be for my daughter. I wanted her to know that anything is possible. That she could be anything and do anything.
In 2 Samuel verse 10 it is written, “Be Brave! We must be courageous for the sake of our people and the cities of our God. The Lord will do what is good in his eyes. -CEB
There were times I thought I could not be brave. There were times I didn’t believe in my ability or talents, but what I realize now is that the Lord did for me what was good in his eyes. What he thought best for me. I have to take the same rough patch and get all the in-Couragement I can.
Have you ever been in a situation where you were not getting encouragement from your community, but you decided to trust God. Tell me how it made you feel to know that you were totally reliant on his words and your faith.
Manicure Monday or the entire week even. Here is a quick how to nail tutorial that will make you the envy of all your Thanksgiving guest.
Try a turkey on for size with the Hot Design’s nail polish pens. They are dual sided, one side paints while the other side is a fine tip that will help you create the artwork.
DIY this cute turkey while you wait for the real thing.
A Fresh take on traditional Thanksgiving Colors
My daughter loves these pens. She uses them to make individual art designs on each nail. I like the coral, red, and grey details. It is a fun departure from the traditional browns, oranges, and tans. This fresh palette would go great with your holiday outfits. This is the perfect pregame food activity. I am always the one who is cooking, and I would probably wreck my nails, but if you aren’t the one making sure the brood is fed. I say hit this fun design and show off your artistic wild turkey nail art side, this manicure Monday or any day this week will work.
Top it Off
You can get the Hot designs this week at Wal-mart, Bed, Bath, and Beyond, online at Hot Looks just for ($14.95).
Make sure you cover this with OPI Natural Nail Base Coat & Top Coat COMBO FULL SIZE .5, for shine. It helps make your cute manicure last for a few days and look good even after a rigorous day full of cooking, eating, and licking your fingers (if the food is as good as you say it is)!
What other beauty items are on your list this holiday week? If you have the time will you try this. If you are baking a Turkey you will have a few extra hours on your hands in between basting. Try this Thanksgiving Nail art for a fun holiday twist.
Image Courtesy of Hot Looks
When you think of fashion and style do you ever think of the Motor City? I didn’t think so, but New York Times wants you to see that the city still has style. Detroit style is influenced by the art and architecture of the city. The rich history of music and steel makes Detroit style standout. It is vintage, modern, laid back, artistic, it is grown up and playful. Check out the video and take a peek into what makes Detroit a style city. The four people highlighted share their style and the inspiration behind it. They are all visually different and they talk about how the city inspires their mood and style. Each talks about the distinct difference their style is based on what they do and where they are in the city.
Motor City Style History Lesson
My grandmother was raised in D town and I remember being there a lot myself as a kid growing up. I don’t believe I got to see the style in the city in those years. I felt like it was just a honest hard working city. I think that the most style I saw growing up was my great grandmother and her friends from church. They were always dressed to the nines and it was nothing for you to see a hat and coordinated dress or suit combination. I love vintage style and I think Detroit has a great style history with all the Motown and music and industry. I think this video gives you a great window into the new style emerging in a city rich with style history. Detroit, Motor City Style could be your next style destination. What do you think of the style city? What other cities do you think have a rich style history. Hit the comments and let me know.